Monday, November 30, 2015

Monday Morning Book Club: The Best Yes 11-13

Good morning and happy Cyber Monday i'm feeling the post turkey madness hangover how about you?!
Here to take us back into some encouraging Monday morning routine is the sweet Carla from Heart in High Cotton. 

Happy Monday, y'all! I hope you had the sweetest weekend with family, eating your favorite foods, and hopefully everyone in the family enjoyed an extra-long, tryptophan induced nap! :) 
I'm so glad you're here checking in for our weekly Monday Morning Book Club and I'm thrilled to get to guest post today!  For those of you who don't know me, let me introduce myself. I'm Carla and I blog over at Heart in High Cotton - mostly chronicling my adventures in motherhood, sharing my favorite Southern recipes, and the thoughts Jesus puts on my heart. I have two beautiful baby girls that keep me on my toes and fill my heart so full. I've been married to my ball-capped sweetheart for almost 5 years and I truly believe that because of Jesus' grace and mercy my heart is "in high cotton." This morning I'll share with you some highlights and takeaways from chapters 11-13 ofThe Best Yes by Lysa TerKeurst. If you've been reading along you know this book has been a treasure packed with truth and encouragement for the weary mama's heart! 

Chapter 11: The Power of the Small No
The small (and big) no can be really hard, particularly for us Type A, people-pleaser personalities. It's an awful feeling when we believe our "no" will be a disappointment. Lisa suggests that even a "small no can be given in such a way that it becomes a gift rather than a curse." Proverbs 24:26, "[an] honest answer is like a warm hug." 
Two typical responses are to respond with a quick yes without tracing that 'river's path' or a defense mechanism of delay. Lysa very poignantly suggested that neither are necessarily a good way to respond. Earlier in the book we've looked at the peril of a quick yes without considering the cost. However, the issue of delaying cut straight to me. Oh, how I could identify with when she said, "we delay - as if delay will somehow make this request go away so we don't have to deal with it." Even if it is a small request/issue, a "no" can seem huge when it means feelings will be hurt or someone will be disappointed. I appreciated how Lysa suggested that delaying isn't just a defense mechanism but it's also unfair. It builds false hope, prevents other plans, and eventually makes receiving more difficult. Personally, I was encouraged that out of consideration for others I can purpose to resist delaying. 
I have loved how Lysa keeps each chapter balanced between determining the "best yes" while keeping in mind that saying no to everything doesn't work either. She duly noted that a "no! ninja, karate-chopping response" to everyone can result in suffering relationships. We can do great jobs, be nice, etc while remembering we can not take on every responsibility offered. 
In this chapter she also talks about "tracing the river." A metaphor for thinking long-term as it relates to making decisions. It's important that we don't jump into a raging river of demand without considering how consuming the metaphorical current will be. We should be people of faith, trusting God to lead us through those rivers but we should also be wise people listening to His calling. Maybe we aren't intended to jump in, but rather walk alongside the water, listening to His instruction. "We can't forget why we give small "no" answers. It's so we can have the white space and wherewithal to recognize God's assignments and give Best Yes answers to those."

Chapter 12: The Awkward Disappointment of Saying No
Bless her heart, Lysa begins this chapter with the description of a painfully awkward experience. However, she goes on to share that as uncomfortable as that situation was it was through the experience she was able to find her Best Yes appointment with God. Without a doubt there will be times when the pursuit for our Best Yes results in an awkward situation. No one really likes to be told no, but it's important to remember the reason we push through the awkwardness. Even if we have to repeat it out loud we must recite to our selves, "I will not let the awkward disappointments of others keep me from my Best Yes appointments with God." 
It's confidence and conviction in our Best Yes that helps us learn to graciously push past the awkward. And as always, our confidence and conviction must rest in God's Word. It has to be front and center. "We have to be thinking about it, be able to quote it. Refuse to let fear and discouragement hold us back." A perfect scripture to hold fast to is Joshua 1:7-9.
"Be strong and very courageous. Be careful to obey all the law my servant Moses gave you; do not turn from it to the right or to the left, that you may be successful wherever you go. Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful. Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go."

Chapter 13: But What if I say No and They Stop Liking Me?
This chapter cuts straight to the chase - that proverbial elephant in the room we've avoided calling out. People pleasing. Y'all, the struggle is so real on this one. Everyone wants to be liked. It's a tough pill to swallow when you realize no matter how hard you try, we cannot make everyone happy. 
Lysa creates the perfect case-study scenario for when a "yes" really needed to be a "no." I'd be willing to bet the scene or something similar has played out in each of our homes. She agreed to do something she knew was going to be stretch. She felt pressure for approval and subsequently her family endured the consequences. She found herself snapping at the children, arguing with her husband, and cleaning up a massive pile of soggy cereal on the kitchen floor as the guilt set in. Why did she get caught up in this? Why do the opinions of others matter so much? 
"So another mom will say thank you and maybe be impressed by your Rice Krispy treats for 5.3 seconds?" We must "resolve instead to make decisions based on what is realistic - not on trying to earn the approval of or impress another." 
Here's the thing, in healthy relationships, when you respond with a "no" the other party understands. She knows your heart and if you say, "no" there is more to the story or a good reason. Sure, you're there for her at other times- you just can't be there every single time. "If they push back when you say no, that's disrespectful on their part. And if you play along, it's dysfunctional on your part." That is not love. Y'all I can't stress this enough - there is no need to participate in dysfunction. It's unhealthy, unnecessary, and usually undetected. Simply put, "at the end of the day, a healthy relationship isn't void of service. Of course we must serve, love, give, be available, help, and contribute to the greater good. But we must have the freedom to say yes or no responsibly without fear of emotional consequences."
 Lastly, she talks about the strings that we attach to acts of service. If I do this, then I will get that. If I make sure this is done, then they will appreciate me. "[We] need to be able to say yes to something without presuming this yes will make a way for me to feel more, have more, or have more owed to [us.]"
 I pray that we can be women motivated by love and not fear. That we'd do what Jesus calls us to do and walk in freedom when He says in the quiet of our heart we need to sit this one out. 
What are some of the biggest things that impacted you as you read through these chapter? Please share your thoughts, responses or questions in the comments box below! I can't wait to hear how each of you are learning and growing as we walk through this journey together! Also, don't forget to hop on over and join us on Instagram for further discussion in our weekly #mondaymorningbookclub chat loop! Until next week, happy reading! 

With Love,

Monday, November 23, 2015

Monday Morning Book Club: The Best Yes 8-10

Hello Thanksgiving Monday!! Are you coping with all the Holiday prep stress yet? There is A LOT to do this week that's for sure. BUT, before you jump elbow deep into a turkey cavity take a minute and read through this weeks chapters summeries of our Monday Morning Book Club The Best Yes, by Lysa TerKeurst. This weeks discussion is brought to us by Dominique . This stunning mama of 4 BOYS, is so sweet and operates a small business out of her home. After the read I encourage you to go to her blog and check out her shop. 

Good morning! I am so excited to bring you the review of Chapters 8-10 in The Best Yes, by Lysa TerKeurst. Before I begin, I have to be honest with you all. I started this book a few weeks ago. I got about 3 chapters in and didn't pick it back up until Saturday evening. I've developed a habit of waiting until the last minute. In fact, I pride myself on working well under pressure. As you know, I launched Parentees just 3 months ago. I wanted to start this business to allow myself the freedom to follow my passion, creating something that could potentially inspire others while remaining present in my boys' lives. I can't even begin to tell you how overwhelming it has been -- the amazing response from customers and the responsibilities involved. I wasn't ready for this, but I said YES because it was something I was passionate about. I don't for one second regret my decision, but I do wish I had taken a second to "Consider The Trade". Which brings me back to this life changing book. 

Chapter 8 - "Consider The Trade"
Lysa begins sharing a time where she watched a one of those TV shows where a professional goes about organizing someone's messy closet. She had the resistant client get rid of clothes she never wore in order to create space in her closet. Lysa reflected on her own closet and how the decision to release some clothes was to stressful to even consider taking on. If she gets rid of it then she may have a feeling of regret. I've never had a problem getting rid of things and not missing them whatsoever, but I do struggle with passing up opportunities! I'm an ambitious person and often feel like if I don't say YES to a person or project I may regret it. So, I will just say YES and figure it out later. I have literally invited stress in my life without a second thought.
After we have considered the trade of our time, resources, finances, and emotional energy then we must make a decision. Have you ever held back from doing something because you either don't know what's all involved or it just seemed like it was just too much? When we don't consider the trade chances are that we will procrastinate. "Not making a decision is actually a decision. It's the decision to stay the same." God gave us an amazing example through his son - Jesus and the Holy Spirit to guide us in our lives. Through prayer and the studying of His word we have all the resources to make these seemingly tough decisions. 

Chapter 9 - "Show Up To Practice"
After learning how to discern what to release and what to take on, we then get to learn how to develop this new skill. Lysa shares how her pole-vaulting teenage daughter went from consistently placing last to breaking a record for her high school. God gives us clear instruction on how to attain and use wisdom in Proverbs 2:1-11, which is essential for making everyday life choices. However, if we don't practice this daily then we will continue to fail or even worse, give up. When I'm at that point of giving up, I will find myself calling out to God, "Help me!" But, what if I had practiced wisdom as fervently as Lysa's daughter practiced her pole-vaulting? In the moments where I'm faced with seemingly tough decisions, I will already know what to do. On the occasions that I still don't know, then I can be still and ask for wisdom (James 1:5) instead of saying YES and then stressing out. 

Chapter 10 - "Managing Demands Means Understanding Expectations"
I'm a free spirit and highly ambitious person, so I tend to set my expectations high and simply follow the flow of life. I love this mantra and don't plan to change this part of me. However, I will only be happier and help others more effectively if I learn to release and trust God to guide me. 
Lysa posed 5 questions to ask yourself before making a commitment that I've paraphrased below:
  • It may feel thrilling to say yes now, but how will this feel later?
  • Do the expectations that will come from this yes feel forced or frantic?
  • Could this yes be tied to people pleasing?
  • Which wise people in my life think this is a good idea?
  • Are there any facts that I would try to hide when discussing this with my wise advisors?
For me, saying yes creates another opportunity to prove that I am capable and I am powerful. It always sounds amazing in my head, but it's just not realistic! I can't do everything and that's OK - it's more than OK! Releasing unrealistic expectations of ourselves is total freedom and happiness. I desire to be happy and make others happy, but the evaluation of expectations will eliminate frustration. Self-reflection is a humbling process, but it is essential to find out why you say, think and act the way you do. Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.
Well, that's all I have to share with you for now. I am so glad that I was able to participate in hosting this book club, because I don't think I would have followed through with reading this book had I not. This is what I have learned and have already begun to apply to my life, but I'm sure it will be different for everyone. I would love for you to share your thoughts on the topics or what you have taken from reading The Best Yes.

Monday, November 16, 2015

Monday Morning Book Club: The Best Yes 5-7

Good morning MONDAY!!! What's your morning like so far? Mine has already turned a bit nutz, I'm locked in the bathroom typing this out for its the only place of privacy at this point! Brooks woke up at 5:45 wouldn't go back to bed, screaming cranky children, cereal bowls crashing to the ground, technology failing to cooperate, yadda, yadda, yadda, all before 7am,the usual, right? Thank goodness for a quiet 10 minutes to pull up a chair, your hot cup of tea/coffee and enjoy this Monday Morning Book Club summery from BreAnna over at MomBeyondMom. She's created a pretty helpful place full of tips, recipes and reviews for every moms enjoyment. After the Book Club head over to her blog and check her out.
Hello friends! I'm so excited to be this week's guest blogger for our review of The Best Yes, by Lysa TerKeurst. I will be reviewing Chapters 5-7. For those of you who don't know me let me introduce myself. I am BreAnna from MomBeyondMom, a blog about everything mom and beyond. I am a mom of two colorful girls, have the most amazing Mr and recently started my blog business which I am absolutely loving.
To say I am busy, is an understatement. I am constantly being pulled in a million opposing directions. I start most days with an agenda and plan, but through out the day new things get piled on and it feels as though I am constantly tackling the ever growing list of things "to-do." There has to be a better way. Right?
There is, and this book has been such a blessing to me. Especially during this season of my life. I don't want to look back and realize I missed God's calling, God speaking to me or even present time with my family because I was constantly tackling my list. I am so excited to embark on these next couple chapters to learn a few practical ways in which I can scale back and learn what is truly the best-yes for me and my life.
In Chapters 1-4, broken down by Kelsey of The Home Loving Wife, we came to the realization that having an overwhelmed schedule can lead to an underwhelmed soul. And let's face it, nobody wants that. Let's take a look at Chapters 5-7 and see if we can't come up with some ways to figure out what our best yes is!!
Chapter 5
Chapter 5 starts off with Lysa retelling the story of her struggling with the decision of whether or not to allow a friend to stay with her and her family. As she starts telling the story, I begin to feel like I am watching myself. In life I have always struggled with doing what I think "I should do" versus what I truly want to do or what I can handle. She goes on to explain that doing what you feel you "should do" leaves you with a very overwhelmed schedule, and I couldn't agree more.
To me the feeling of letting someone down or feeling as though I am not helping when I technically could, feels terrible. I would give of myself until I had nothing left. While I suppose that is a great quality, it often times leaves me feeling very depleted and my soul underwhelmed.
Once I began to have children and became a stay at home mother, this feeling only multiplied. I felt as though I had to be everything to everyone at all times. This usually left little to no time for myself. This is not a good recipe. Throughout the years I have learned that I have got to take care of myself and not put too much on my plate, otherwise I end up a wreck. And lets face it, if I am a wreck I can not take care of anyone else.
Lysa goes on to discuss how she has evolved the way she makes decisions. It's not a complicated process, but a process you can not skip when considering adding something to your plate. The next time you make a decision I suggest you ask yourself these 4 things:
1. Can this phsycially fit into my life?
2. Can this financially fit into my life?
3. Can this spiritually fit into my life?
4. Can this emotionally fit into my life?
"Whatever I do. In word or deed. My approach must honor Jesus." Meaning that everything you do must align with a Godly spirit. And if you honestly answer each of these questions you will be well on your way to honoring God and discovering what your best-yes is.
Chapter 6
So now you have made this decision that you want to make better choices for yourself. You have learned a few tools and questions to ask yourself when you are presented with a demand and once you do that you will be able to give the best-yes. But now what? How do you make this happen?
You chase it down. You constantly pursue. Nothing happens overnight, but you make small changes here and there and suddenly you have paved a way for change in your life.
Lysa says, "Show me a decision and I'll show you a direction," meaning that every decision you make helps shape the life you are living. If you keep using your tools/questions when you have to make a decision you are going to continue to keep choosing the best yes. And eventually, before you know it, it will be a habit for you. A habit to always choose the best-yes.
With all that being said, I think it is important to remember that there is no such thing as a perfect decision. There will always be pluses and minuses. You have to take the good with the bad. We will explore that more in Chapter 7.
Chapter 7
Lets take a look back to previous chapters where Lysa describes the agony she goes through when making the decisions and tries to understand why it is so hard for us to make decisions at times.
One of the main discussions in Chapter 7 has to do with fear and its paralyzing abilities. We fear we will make the wrong choice, so we try to avoid making one. That in itself is letting fear win. We have to remember that "failure is an error, NOT an end."
We have to understand that with every decision we make there will be some negatives that come along with it. There is no such thing as a perfect decision, only a best yes decision. Throughout the chapter she talks about five ways we can make a decision without letting fear have an effect on our decision making process.
  1. Trusting in God by placing my desire under his order: If you trust God, there is no room for fear. You must understand that no matter the outcome, good or bad, God will use this for your journey. Every single "failure" has and will shape the person he has meant for you to become.
  2. Analyze the decision: Decide what is best for you. Use the tools we have learned in the previous chapters to decide what is the best yes for you.
  3. Make the decision: You have the tools. You have asked yourself the questions. Now you have arrived at the best yes for you. Pull the trigger, make the decision, do not let fear keep you from making the decision.
  4. Own the decision: You made the decision, now own it. Good or bad? It does not matter because you did everything you possibly could to make the best decision for yourself.
  5. Trusting God to work good even from the not-so-good parts: This is the tricky part. Just please remember to keep your faith and stay focused on God even through out the "bad" parts of your decision. Remember there is a bigger plan at work here. This is just a piece of the puzzle. You made what you thought was the best yes, now let God do the rest.
As I was reading these chapters I kept thinking of a scripture: "Faith without works is dead." I think this encompases all that these chapters speak to. We have got to do the work, learn tools and ways to decide the best yes for ourselves. THEN, have faith. Faith that God will take care of everything else.
It was wonderful to study these chapters with you all! I am so looking forward to next week's review of Chapters 6-9 and continuing to learn how to develop my best yes knowledge. Until then...

Monday, November 9, 2015

Monday Morning Book Club: The Best Yes 1-4

Hey ya'll and happy Monday morning! Monday mornings usually get a bad rap but we're going to change that with this weeks encouraging highlights from our current read The Best Yes by Lysa Terkeurst. Kelsey from The Home Loving Wife  has this weeks summary ready to go for us and I for one am in complete need of this inspiring message. This sweet young mama of 4 bitty girls has a great perspective and positive outlook. After you've read through her takeaways I encourage you to hop on over to her blog and see what she's all about I know you'll be glad you did! Take it away Kelsey. 
Happy Monday friends, and WELCOME to Week One of our brand spankin' new Monday Morning Book Club!! I'm so glad to have you joining us and can't wait to see how each of us grows throughout this journey. The best part is that we get to do it together! We have been reading through The Best Yes by the ever-inspiring and amazing Lysa TerKeurst and can I just say - WOW!!! Never has a book resonated so deeply within the core of who I am and spoken so directly to the struggles that I have been facing for years. Especially now, in this season of being a young wife, mama, homemaker and entrepreneur, there is never a shortage of demands or requests vying for my attention. I've always appreciated how transparent and real Lysa is when addressing the common challenges we women face throughout our lives. And let me tell you, she does not disappoint in The Best Yes. Here are some of the highlights and takeaways I'd love to share with you from Chapters 1-4.

Chapter 1: Check the Third Box

As Lysa shares a funny story about her daughter's lack of ability to make a decision when ordering from a drive-thru restaurant, I couldn't really relate to her daughter in that moment. I personally don't usually suffer from being indecisive. I'm actually a very decisive person usually - perhaps sometimes even impulsive! I typically know what I like, know what I want and have no problem communicating it. But, as I kept reading, Lysa wrote something that did grab me. She said, "It's not that she'll think what she ordered is bad, it's just that she'll feel the tension of realizing she missed the best choice." When it comes to the bigger decisions of life, how many times I have vacillated back and forth between many good options, crippled not by the fear of making a bad choice, but rather by the fear of not making the best choice. Because I don't just want to go through this life being "okay." I want to be the best, have the best, and do the best. Let's be honest - it's no fun to make a choice and then have "buyer's remorse" when we realize we don't really want what we chose. Or to realize that, had we waited, another better choice would have been waiting for us. So how do we learn to know just exactly what the best choices are? I'm hoping to discover the answer to this question as I read on.
Here's another golden nugget that pierced me through like an arrow when I read it. "I blindly live at the mercy of the requests of others that come my way each day. Every assignment feels like my assignment. You need me? You got me. Because I'm too scared or too cowardly or too busy or too something to just be honest and say, 'I can't this time." HOLY COW. This is me. All day, every day, all the time, with everyone. Granted, as my family has grown and I've become increasingly aware of my own limitations, this has started to become a bit less of a struggle. I have slowly begun to learn how to appropriately wield the word no and it has served me and my family well! But how do you navigate the choppy, unpredictable waters of raising several young children whose needs and demands are unending, and survive to tell the tale? I've noticed that even though I am truly blessed with an incredible husband who is more than willing to help carry the burden of caring for the kiddos and cooking and cleaning, etc - I still view all of those things as my jobs. They are my assignments and I constantly carry around that weight. It is exhausting. But why do I hold so tightly to everything? Why do I feel the need to control those areas of my life? Why is it so hard to accept that I am neither meant to, nor capable of doing and being everythingI have felt what Lysa poignantly describes happens when we are chronically too busy, particularly with tasks and assignments that are not our 'Best Yes' assignments. She writes, "The acid of overactivity eats holes in our souls. And from those holes leaks the cry of the unfulfilled calling that never quite happened." Weirdly, for the first few years of my motherhood journey I felt so amazingly fulfilled and like I was right where I was supposed to be, doing what I was meant to do. And I'm not sure when or how it happened, but one day a few years in, I woke up realizing that I wasn't happy anymore. I wasn't enjoying being a mommy. I no longer enjoyed doing the things I used to. I didn't feel motivated anymore. All I wanted to do was wake up, get through the day as unscathed as possible, then sleep away my discontent until I had to get up and do it all over again. I'm going to take a wild guess and say it probably had something to do with the fact that a) I was exhausted and b) I was always saying yes to everything and everyone except myself and God. Talk about getting things backwards!!

Chapter 2: The Way of The Best Yes

I don't know what kind of person you are, but I definitely know what kind of person I am. I am a rusher. People have commented all of my life at how fast I move. I am pretty impatient. I'm all about speed and efficiency and somehow figuring out how to cram more into less time. In a lot of ways this is a gift, but in countless other ways it is a curse. It can be very challenging for me to just sit and be. To stop and enjoy things fully, rather than hustle and bustle about from one thing to the next. Lysa made a great point when she said, "When all of life feels like an urgent rush from one demand to another, we become forgetful. We forget simple things like where we put our keys or that one crucial ingredient for dinner when we run to the grocery store. But even more disturbing, we forget God. We say with our mouth that we are trusting and relying on God, but are we really?" This really grabbed me. If I continue to allow myself and my schedule no room to breathe, what space is left for God to fill in me? I'm reminded of one of my favorite quotes, "You can't pour out of any empty cup." I think it's time to be purposeful about leaving some empty space in my life, to be less rushed and more focused on the things that truly matter. Especially because, as Lysa shares, "It's in those little breaks in our companionship with God where confusion sets in about what we're really supposed to do." Oh boy, I have SO been there. Anytime I start to feel lost or confused regarding my direction, focus or purpose, I can usually trace it back to busyness having nudged my relationship with God out of first place. I can really see how it is my obedience (or disobedience!) to God's instruction that dictates whether I grasp His will for the direction I am to go in or not.

Chapter 3: Overwhelmed Schedule, Underwhelmed Soul

This section absolutely SLAYED me. Oh my. I could just quote the entire chapter right here, and leave it at that. But I won't do that to you - you'll have to go read it for yourself!! I love the story she shared of high jumper Dick Fosbury and how he achieved Olympic gold-medal success by approaching his sport with a different, new technique. She writes, "Here's the reality of our current technique: other people's requests dictate the decisions we make. We become slaves to others' demands when we let our time be dictated by requests. We will live reactive lives instead of proactive. And reactive lives get very exhausting, very quickly. If I want things about my life to change, it won't happen just by trying harder or dreaming more or even working myself to death. I have to change my approach to the way I make decisions. The same patterns will produce the same habits. The same habits will lead to the same decisions. The same decisions will keep me stuck. And I don't want to be stuck." Ladies - I don't want to be stuck either!!! I want to live a powerful life that is a testimony to God's glory and greatness. I want to make a difference in people's lives, but I also want to enjoy life and the blessings God has showered on me. I believe He wants both of those things for me as well - and YOU too! But here's the truth. "The decisions we make dictate the schedules we keep. The schedules we keep determine the lives we live. The lives we live determine how we spend our souls. So, this isn't about finding time. This is about honoring God with the time we have." Drawing from this, I plan to start getting really intentional with wisely choosing how to allocate my time, and to what end. I refuse to continue "haphazardly spending my soul" on the things that don't really matter that much in the end.

Chapter 4: Sometimes I Make It All So Complicated

Philippians 1:9-10 says, "And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless for the day of Christ." Lysa says, "God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best. Discerning what is best is something we're capable of doing as we layer knowledge and depth of insight into our lives." This is something that I want to be known for.  Just like the "wise woman" from the story of Sheba in the Bible, I want to have a reputation for making wise choices when it matters. I want not only myself, but those God has put in my life to benefit from my ability to discern what is best when decisions need to be made. To do this, I need to prioritize putting my "heart and mind in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters" as Lysa admonishes.
I also love how perfectly and accurately Lysa states, "Life has such a habit of stripping the feelings of power and significance right out of our scope with its constant daily demands." But she goes on to say, "That daily stuff- those responsibilities that seem more like distractions - those things we want to rush and just get through to get on with the better and bigger assignments of life - those things that are unnoticed places of service? They are the very experiences from which we unlock the riches of wisdom. We've got to practice wisdom in the everyday places of our lives. Never despise the mundane. Embrace it. Unwrap it like a gift. And be one of the rare few who looks deeper than just the surface. See something more in the everyday. It's there. We can learn right here, right now, in the midst of all that's daily how to become wise. As we wisely gain knowledge through everyday stuff, grasp insights through everyday stuff, and grapple with the development of our discernment through everyday stuff, we'll use what we have to our advantage by making better decisions." How easy it can be to get lost in the sea of the monotony of our daily to-do lists and responsibilities. I can't tell you how many dishes I wash or shoes I tie or noses I wipe or boo-boos I kiss, day-in and day-out. And it's easy to forget that those things matter. If I can be faithful in the little, God will entrust me with more. I think ultimately the choice is mine. To either look at my life and feel like its victim, like a buoy tossed about by the waves of constant requests and demands for my attention, talents and resources. Or, I can choose to look at everything as a gift. Right here, right now I have been richly and abundantly blessed. How can I take and use what I have to make a great impact for God's glory, in a manner that will enrich, fulfill and satisfy my soul? I don't think the answer to that question is too hard to identify when we are willing to change our approach and stop over-complicating everything.
What are some of the biggest things that impacted you as you read through these first few chapters of The Best Yes? Do you feel any closer to determining what a "best yes" may be for you in your life right now? Please share your thoughts, responses or questions in the comments box below! I can't wait to hear how each of you are learning and growing as we soldier on through this journey together! ALSO - don't forget to hop on over and join us on Instagram for further discussion in our weekly #mondaymorningbookclub chat loop!